How Was Your Mother's Day?
(Look people. We know you are lurking. We can see how many of you stop by on our stats. WE SEE YOU! But lo and behold, we only have two people brave enough to discuss their Mother's Day? Are you kidding us? C'mon! Jump in, tell us what's going on with you! We wouldn't ask if we really didn't want to know! Would you change anything about Mother's Day for next year? Leave it the same? What???)
We've had technical difficulties. For some unknown reason signing into "Blogger" became impossible for a number of days. Short of calling Oliver Stone, we couldn't figure out the problem or if it was indeed a conspiracy. But right when we were going to look up Ollie, suddenly the Internets opened up and we were able to sign into "Blogger." So now comes the catching up. How was Mother's Day?
We're going to say it, we're not big fans of Mother's Day. We know, it sounds so "unmotherly" to admit we'd rather skip it than observe it. We're not convinced that Mother's Day is useful to anyone else other than the gift card companies. We feel more like moms when we celebrate the birthdays of our children. Because isn't that the real day we all became mothers? However your child came to you,if they were never born, you would not be a mom. But we know there are those who consider having a day where motherhood is acknowledged and celebrated. Where are you on the idea of it? Did you like it more when you were the child honoring your mom or do you enjoy being the one now feted?
How did Mother's Day go for you and yours? Did you find yourself feeling...
Appreciated? Guilty? Annoyed? Happy? Let down? Something else?
Edited to add:
Dads, chime in!
Labels: Blogger, Guilt, Happy, Mother's Day, Oliver Stone
posted by Devra and Aviva @ 11:10 AM
10 Comments:
i had a great day. i feel like it was the first time that i dropped the guilt and let hubby take the kids away. he was great about it and that helped. of course whne he said he would take them to the park i felt guilty that i would want that on mother's day but it was wonderful to have the house to myself for a an hour or 2
Since my children were born on May 12th I spent this Mother's Day like I have spent the past four Mother's Days... celebrating their birthday.
It was good -- my husband wrangled the boy for most of the weekend. But he wrangles him almost every weekend.
Well, my normally (semi-) well-behaved brrod decided to test my patience and give me a run for my money on Sunday. I had declared all weekend that Sunday was Mommy's day. We devote the other 364 to the children; the least they could do was to give me a break on May 11th. It all started out well enough. Excited kids, shining happy faces, who couldn't get the presents to me fast enough. And great presents they were. Things I had always wanted but wouldn't by for myself. Excellent. So, then someone turned the mood light switch. After lunch, I told them I would like to do a little shopping and check out the used bookstore in the next county. I was greeted with whines, moans, and "why do we have to do that"s. I ignored the grumbling factions and loaded everyone in the car. We were in the store no longer than 15 minutes when the crew started the oh-so-original refrain of "Mom, you've just got to buy me this!" I've explained to them on numerous occasions that they can't have something EVERY SINGLE time we leave the house. They are quite spoiled by everyone in the family and very literally get something every time someone returns home. It's out of hand. So, that, followed by disgusted huffs and stomping when I said "no", just was more than this mommy could take. I cut the trip short, loaded everyone back in the car, added insult to injury by telling them that they were now going to accompany me to the grocery store (a much-dreaded task in our house; no one comes out happy, I have to tell you) and then we were going straight home. Which we did...with them griping, moans, complaining, and grunting like animals the whole way. So, Im sure some people out there had a nice, peaceful, breakfast in bed, kind of day. But, the Happy Fairy skipped our house Saturday night. The kids have since apologized for their behavior and promised (!) to do better next time. Okay, guys, you've got 363 days to work on it. Better start now! ;)
Tiffany,
I once had such a terrible Mother's Day I suggested we all do it over in two weeks. This was actually a huge hit because no one had to anticipate what would happen next year. We had a talk about what had gone wrong and ways to make it right again. My husband said it would be helpful to have a list of things I'd like to do, so I provided a list and the kids and he selected something from the list, but did not tell me what it was. So the element of surprise was still there, but they also knew it would be something I would like and appreciate as well. I think sometimes,despite the good intentions, expectations don't get met and then disappointments occur and feelings get hurt.
The other thing that came into play is my husband missed his owm mother who had died a few years ago, so celebrating my motherhood was a reminder of his own loss. Mother's Day is complicated sometimes for that reason too.
So maybe not having them wait an entire year could be a possibility?
This post cracked me up!!
My Mother's Day was wonderful. My husband let me sleep late... he made breakfast... we got to do what "I wanted to do" all day - which, since I'm due with baby #4 in 5 weeks - was basically NOTHING!! :)
I wish I had these types of days all the time... I woke up Monday morning to reality!
Love your blog!!!!
Best,
Audrey
Pinks & Blues
I martyred out on Saturday doing the bday party circuit, babysitting newborn niece, houseguests, dinner party for 20 - cooked while holding newborn niece, cleaned, candles, flowers, booze.
On Sunday it was just me and hubs and kids at church & the butterfly garden, recovering from our previous day. Oh, they got me 2 cute shirts and made me cards. Love!
Hi, Devra!
I had a great Mother's Day because my family pampered me to death and wouldn't let me do any housework!
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I had an awesome day! I left the kids and hubby and went for a manicure and pedicure and EVEN had my brows waxed!
For me until we move out of state that day will be about my mom and my MIL, and that is a little annoying to me. I agree I am more of a mom on the birthday.
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